Three years ago you drew your last breath.
Alone. In your long term care-home without the people who loved you around you.
Devoid of the people who loved you holding your hand or stroking your cheek, in the absence of your dear ones telling you they loved you or assuring you everything was going to be alright.
In fact none of us could say if it was ever going to be alright again.
Two weeks in to the Covid Pandemic the world had essentially shut down, people stayed home, traffic stopped, the streets emptied, airplanes were grounded and thus began a time of separation and loneliness for many.
Did you know what had befallen the world?
Were you afraid?
Did you feel abandoned?
Did you know that we were not allowed to visit you?
And that it was too late to do so when you went towards the light?
Did you know that we tried to call you but as you were unable to answer your phone yourself and because the phone lines to the nurses’ desk went unanswered you did not hear our loving voices ?
Or was your foggy, elderly brain protecting you from having these thoughts?
Did you go in to the light and dream beautiful dreams of your childhood dog Skippy? Did you see yourself dancing on your father’s feet? Were you singing as you always did? Did you see your babe on your lap or your handsome groom coming down the aisle?
The night before your passing I connected with all my cousins with whom we all gathered so many times.
I asked them to imagine them holding your hand, I requested that everyone mentally tell you how much we loved and appreciated you, How much we learned and how much you meant to each and every one of us. I beseeched them to thank you for the love and laughter and to tell you we understood if you had to go.
The next morning you left this earth and I comforted myself by wishing to believe you had felt us.
They say we are all made of electricity and I hope upon hope that we were all connected in that moment and that you were not alone. I like to think that you chose that morning to leave exactly because you had felt us.
Years ago you and I had seen a play in which the main character passed away while her children circled her bed and sang to her as if they were singing her to sleep.
I have always remembered how beautiful that was and as you grew older and weaker I had promised myself that was how it would be when your time came however Covid had a different game plan.
I miss you today as I do every day but tonight I will climb on your lap while you sing me a song and afterwards I will hold your hand and sing “Partons la mer est belle …….” As it should have been .